In Support of Great Pajamas (with a Salua Lingerie Discount Code!)
Discount code for Salua is near the bottom, but I know you wanna read my pretty post too, right??
In my many months of lying in my bed trying to recover from bad days with POTS, I learned a trick: put on some comfortable, pretty pajamas, and things feel a little bit better. It's not about vanity because NO ONE but my husband and kids would ever see me and, let's be honest, they don't mind much what I'm wearing on a sick day. Rather, nice pajamas signaled to me that I was still worthy of decent clothes. Donning a long, soft nightgown was a way for me to get ready for my day, a signal to my mind and heart that I still had work to do (important work like parenting!) even if I had to do it from my bed. Beautiful loungewear became a reminder that things weren't all bad.
Now, even though I spend very few days in bed (THANKS BE TO GOD!), I do still love a great nightgown or pair of pajamas. I do, after all, do a lot of work during the night shift loving on kids who are scared and nursing the baby. On days I'm trapped in the house with sick kids (or a sick self) or even on a lazy Saturday, I love wearing the quality loungewear pieces I have collected. Wearing comfortable clothes cues that you are in resting-mode, a mode that many of us need to turn on more often! True story: a few days ago I bought a really pretty, red chiffon, twirly skirt from Anthro, but the next day I took it back. As much as I liked it and think wearing nice clothes in public when you can has value, I felt like it wasn't a smart purchase for me. So, what did I exchange it for? A soft, snuggly, attractive... sweatshirt. Then, when my kids had stomach virus all weekend I smiled a little bit every time I passed a mirror! And it goes so well with so many of my cute nightgowns and snuggle clothes.
"This is just rich-girl frivolity," you may be thinking. Well, I do consider myself privileged by world standards, but in many ways I'm quite the cheapskate (except when it comes to food and jammies!) All I can answer is that my love for the loungewear was born of a dark, sad time of wondering if I would ever be any use to anyone ever again. Pretty pjs are a way to say, "My body and I are valuable, and my worth is not based on what I am accomplishing or who is looking at me but on my humanity." The truth was that I did have value and still will should my POTS kick back in and send me back to bed because I am made in God's image; and, no matter where my "office" is, there is work for me to do.
One of the reasons I am pursuing writing is that I can (and do) do it from my bed or couch, and I love that I can share things with people! I am a cheerleader/encourager/promoter by nature, and writing allows me to continue doing that even if I'm too tired or sick for face-to-face interaction. I want other women (and the people who love them) to know that they were made for special purposes and are not throw-away even if they feel useless. That's a feeling that I was forced to face down in myself, and I am glad. It was (and is) not always fun, but by challenging that notion I am freer to just joyfully do the work set before me without so much fear that it isn't enough to be worthwhile.
And that's why I believe in beautiful pajamas, and I hope you will let yourself have some! I have definitely found that it is worth a little extra money to get something well-made (and hopefully not by abused workers!). I love small, local boutiques for these reasons. A while back at Zovo in University Village here in Seattle, I discovered a pair of Salua Lingerie's cotton pajamas. The purchase was different than what I usually go for, but I really, really love these pajamas - so much so that I posted a picture of me in them on Instagram! (SO, recently I took a personality test thing that pegged me at nearly 0% "Reserve" and 96% "Assertive." Does that help you understand me? K? Great.) Naturally, I tagged Salua because I like people to know that I like them and their work, and guess what?! Salua created my very own discount code for me and whoever I choose to share it with (which I hope will be EVERYONE because WE NEED ALL THE PRETTY JAMMIES because we are valuable! And it's ok to like pretty stuff and be insanely comfortable while we make jelly toasts and wipe snot and stuff!)!
From now until April 30th, you can get 40% off using code: FORJESKYBERA at salualingerie.com
So, just go look and maybe get a little something. Postpartum laying in is a great time to wear nice pajamas. A weekend with barfing children (and husband) is a GREAT time to wear pretty jammies. And there is nothing cute about chronic illnesses, and I don't mean to be flippant. Believe me. I know too much for that. But, if that's your boat, then I really hope you have people in your life who want to send you luxurious loungewear by the boatload.
Now I just need to decide what I'm going to get :). Feel free to share and pass along this code! FORJESKYBERA (I love it)